When I posted things I need to work on, asking for guest bloggers was one of them and my dear friend, Chris Carter from The Mom Cafe quickly sent me one that she thought would be perfect and she was right. So often I get down on myself for having one of “those days,” days where all I did was yell or command or criticize and on those nights, I look at my sleeping children and wonder how the next day will be different. Well, Chris has a great solution to at least ease the “Mommy guilt” that we all sometimes feel.
Please welcome her and leave her a comment showing her that I have the best bunch of readers there is and then head over to her spot and check her out. You won’t be disappointed. She is a mom that tells it like it is and is uplifting to boot. She has some hilarious stories about her kiddos and writes from the heart. Thanks, Chris for stopping by!
For every 1 do 3…
Have you ever heard of the 3 to 1 rule? For every one negative comment you say to a child, you should have three positive things to say.
I like that, and I really should do that more often. I tend to dwell on the negative comment over and over again…and forget I need to greet that with something wonderful and pleasant times three. I used to be so good at this as a therapist and a teacher…but as a mom? I seem to forget this golden rule of parenting.
I keep thinking about my thought life and sometimes it is filled with negative statements and critical judgments… What if I applied this to me?
For every time I think of something that is far from positive, I slam it with three things that are far from negative? What if I focus on being aware of all those self-defeating thoughts and combat them with three fighting compliments? What if when I raise a brow to the nature of all that is wrong…I enlightened my murky mind with three things that are right. What if when I look at a person in judgment, I also see three reasons to give grace? Perhaps where I spit out the darkness, can I redeem it with light? When I twist around the fire in my mind, can I douse it with Holy Water? Would it be so difficult to find the blessings all around me, instead of all the curses? That my friends, is the challenge I am about to embark on…
Would you care to join me?
I am aware of all my mind chatter, and I am not proud of the things I say. I am convicted to change for the better. I want to transform my thinking and conquer the battles of anger, judgment and impatience. For what comes from within, surely flows right back out. And I need to be more aware of those muddy waters flowing through my heart and pouring through my thoughts. I can’t linger on in this brutal disposition. Instead, I will transform my thinking to inspire all that is good and worthy of praise.
Would you do 3:1 with me? Each and every day, may we try to be aware of our thought life…and intertwine each misaligned, negative impulse with all that is good.
3 to 1.
That doesn’t sound so hard, does it? I’m going to try this today. Head on over to The Mom Cafe or check her out on Facebook and Twitter @themomcafe. She brings humor and heart to every blog post she writes and brings light to every blog she visits. She is one of the most loyal, sweetest bloggers out there so be kind and give her some comment love here.
Thanks again, Chris!