I’m not sure this pertains to all of you so if not, take it with a grain of salt. Do you have the kind of wife or girlfriend that cooks for you? Does she do the best she can to make sure that you have dinner every night? Even if you can’t make it home, does she make sure your kids are fed? If she does, perhaps you should implement a new rule to make sure that your lovely significant other doesn’t live a lifetime of resenting you or wanting to throw a frying pan at your head. The very frying pan she just cooked your dinner it, I might add. How about having the rule that if she cooks, you clean it up? That’s what Leo and I did waaaaay back when we first got married. It has worked wonders for us. It has saved so much aggravation and anger at having to do both tasks which at one time was enjoyable (at least the cooking) but now causes me to want to pull my hair out.
See, it started because we both worked and it didn’t seem fair that both dinner and clean-up fell to me to do. I could have argued that I was in charge of 27 second graders all day long and got a lot less money than he did for, I believe at the time, looking at things spinning on a computer so maybe he should have done both but I didn’t. I happily took the job of cooking while he happily took the job of clean-up. When the decision was made that I would stay home with Nico so I was no longer working outside of the house, we still kept up this rule because I think he knew that arguing that I was home all day doing nothing while he was at work, still watching things spinning…maybe with all different colors, was going to cause me to go all exorcist on him.
We’ve been doing this the entire time we have been married and for the most part, it works. Obviously there are times when I do both and sometimes he does both but for the most part, I highly recommend you trying this in your homes. Even if your wife or girlfriend says, “No, thanks,” you’ll still get major points for suggesting it.
I will give you this tip, though: Men, cleaning the kitchen after dinner does not mean putting everything in the sink to “soak”. It is a short distance from the sink to the dishwasher. Take the step, Men. Put them in the dishwasher. Your wife spends the extra money on Cascade Complete so that there is no need to soak. She wants to come downstairs in the morning to a clean kitchen, not a full sink.
Oh, and moving everything aside on the counter is not cleaning the counter. Things actually have a place in the cabinets that though your wife would love to be able to put things away as she cooks, she probably has a two (now maybe 3) year old hanging on her and three other kids asking for help with their homework. She might even have to stop in the middle to go pick up kids because it’s her day for the carpool.
Oh, one last thing: the table counts in the clean-up.
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