I am well aware that after you read this, you might look at me differently. You might see a 5’2 stick of dynamite that swears like a sailor or truck driver (sorry sailors and truck drivers…I didn’t start that saying). I am hoping that by coming clean, I’ll make a bigger effort to stop doing it. I’m taking the chance that you’ll still love me since the first step in getting rid of a problem is admitting it.
I got to talking with friends this weekend about swearing in front of our kids. I grew up in a very Italian household. That means that emotions ran high and curse words were used frequently and really, held no more powerful in meaning than the next word. Well, I shouldn’t say that. It meant your mom or dad was really mad. That’s not to say that every Italian household was a swearing household. I don’t think my Grams ever swore.
I am so guilty of this. I would love to say that I’ll try to take my own advice that I give my kids when they use language that is…um…colorful. “Find a better word. You are smarter than that.” Hah! I am pretty smart and yet…I get mad or frustrated and out it comes. I got to thinking what things cause these emotionally charged words to fly out of my mouth:
1. “I forgot to do my treatment/I don’t want to do my treatment.”
2.” I forgot I have homework or a test.”
3. “I needed this washed. Can you do it really fast?”
4. “I left my backpack at so and so’s house.”
5. Anything I have to say 10 or more times before it gets done.
6. “I decided to stay for the next two games.” (Leo)
7. “I left my homework at school.”
8. Having to go back and forth from the kids’ rooms to whatever I am doing to wake them up 12 times. Get up, already!
9. “I have poker this week.” (Le0)
10. Aggravating the girls until they make a sound that only dogs can hear.
11. The answer no unless it is “Were you involved in any of that trouble?”.
12. Asking for money right after ignoring me when I say to clean something.
13. Hen pecking me when they want something after I already said no.
14. Not answering cell phones or texts.
15. Texting things or posting things on Facebook that I don’t like.
16. “Can I have a sleepover?/ Can I sleep over at so and so’s house.”
I should stop here. I just realized that an awful lot makes me curse. I was a teacher in my former life and kids did all kinds of things that aggravated me and I managed to never curse so why can’t I here? Well for one, they would press the buttons but not continuously press them. Over…and over…and over again. I even had one student ask me every single day from the time I told my class I was pregnant until I left for my maternity leave, “Did you have your baby yet?” Even then, I would sweetly say, “No, not yet.”
I need to practice saying, “Shoot”, “Darn” or my dad’s favorite, “Jiminy Crickets.” (Every kid coached by my dad heard that at some point.) As far as swearing in front of the kids, I am not proud of it but like with a lot of other things, “Do as I say and not as I do.” Just like being able to watch a rated R movie or driving a car, there are some things that adults can do that kids cannot. My kids learn that the minute they can pronounce the word, “Damn.”
Raising kids causes frustration and anger. If any parent tells you they are happy and content all the time, they are lying. Sometimes, one of my kids does something so stupid that I am literally in shock. Sometimes the safest release is letting out the word, “Shit!”
I’m 100% guilty of it but I am also 100% working on it.
What about you? Can you give me a run for my money in the swearing department or am I alone in this?