Dear Person that thought it was funny to tease Nico because I bought a mug with his picture on it,
First of all, I get tired of buying pictures that end up in a drawer somewhere so this year, I thought I’d do something different. I love a good cup of tea or hot chocolate (or hot chocolate with a little Bailey’s in it) so the mug seemed like a great idea. I know it wasn’t your intent to embarrass him. It was all in good fun, just fun-loving ribbing. Well, it’s fine and he got over it but I want to explain something to you.
It’s not your fault that you don’t get it. We made the decision to keep it from you what a special kid Nico is. The mug doesn’t just represent an overzealous mom of a freshman football player which is how you portrayed it. It represents so much more. It is a symbol of a kid that battles something so much bigger than he is or that you are. It’s a symbol of a kid that has never let up on his dreams even though his body sometimes is screaming at him to. It is a symbol of a life lived despite obstacles that reduce him (and me) to tears. It is a milestone and an odd beaten.
You probably don’t know how hard he is working outside of practice to fight the effects of what he battles. Gaining weight is one of the harder things to accomplish when you battle CF and Nico is committed to doing it. It’s not your fault that you don’t know his rigorous schedule of waking up early, doing treatments, going to school, going to practice, coming home and eating, doing homework, lifting weights, eating again, doing treatments and going to bed. It’s ours. Did we make the right choice? Nico begged us not to say anything. He was afraid that he’d be judged by it before he could prove himself. He’s a normal teenager that wants to be like everyone else. Do you know how many kids battle what he does at his high school? None. He’s the only one. Imagine what that feels like to a 14-year-old.
Nico was throwing/holding a football before he could walk. He was 2 when he did his first Little Sportsters class. He was 3 when we found out he had CF. Thoughts of him ever playing football fell by the wayside and were replaced with would he live a normal life? He never thought otherwise. Of course he’d play. And play he has done. That mug…it’s a testament to his never giving up. To not letting CF win.
I love that he teaches me every single day what it means to love something enough to fight for it. To battle through the cards life has dealt you. To have something that you could easily lean on to make life easier but choosing instead to overcome it and NOT let it win. NOT let it define you. This mug that was the subject of a joke…this mug is a symbol of someone amazing. So go ahead and make jokes and tease. Say what you will but I love my mug because to me, it’s not just a mug.
Nico’s overzealous because he’s going to beat the odds mom
Thanks, Shell for giving me the space to pour my heart out: